Society has expectations that each individual is to be held accountable to. Standards. Milestones in your life, as some may say. Get through high school in order to get accepted into an accredited 4 year college. Graduate on the proper timeline of 4 years in order to be at your prime age to land your dream job fresh out of college. College, or shortly after being where you may find your future spouse. The person you’re supposed to spend the rest of your life with and start a family of your own, yet you are just figuring out who you as yourself. What the ‘American dream’ plan does not include is all of the other factors that come into play when making these life decisions. The fact that what you thought you wanted to do for a career leaving high school may not be the same as what you still want as you enter the final year of college, or even after that period. So much goes into making decisions like those and even then, your path can change.
Change can equal new life, new opportunity and growth. Doing something different than what’s expected of you doesn’t have to be a negative thing. I have faced some challenges during my college years that have led me on a different path than I had originally planned for myself. The most important thing I have learned and continue to learn is that by doing things on your own terms that differ from societal expectations does not mean you are failing. I will repeat that for good measure, YOU ARE NOT FAILING! You are the only person who can decide when and if something will work for you and therefore, will lead you to happiness. This concept is something that I have to work through and remind myself of nearly every day. Although the confidence in my choices comes and goes I must not allow myself to get to comfortable because it can creep back up on you in no time. Try not to allow yourself to leave the responsibility in society’s hands. You, and I, have to make a choice to remain in control of our own happiness.
Why waste another minute away, who’s hands will it be?